Is it for love or sacrifice? Often times, it is for neither. It is a 'feigned' gesture, ... given in hopes that the offer alone will manifest in your mind.... and create an image of a venerable angelic creature who does not exist ! The weight of his gestures too cumbersome against the weight of love in your relationship, this manipulative character will soon find a way to ease out of his commitment should you take him up on it.
The next time I drop some change, and my good manipulative buddy half-heartedly leans over to help pick it up......I will stop and let him do it...., holding my lower back in a feigned but grimacing pain. I will feign a reach for my wallet after dinner at the Outback, and thank him quickly after he offers : " Oh, lemme get that!". Then, I will quickly scurry off to 10 minute handwashing session in the bathroom. My good manipulative buddy has no idea that he will be helping me paint the house this weekend. I am going to take him up on his offer to assist!
He is a politician, ... who will promise you the world ...knowing that the world is not his to offer! Like a sinner who prays for forgiveness, but does not repent, the truth of his nature will eventually be revealed. Something tells me that soon, very soon, I will have this friend no longer....as fulfilling these gestures brings burden to our relationship.
Now then, would anyone like to go to breakfast this fine Sunday morning? My treat!